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The first, and most important, thing to remember is that you are the only person your lady knows in the new country. This will require additional patience and understanding on your part, as some traditions, habits, and information might be completely new to your sweetheart. A great plus will be to have your family and friends well aware of your decision to marry someone from abroad, and use their support in making your Russian bride feel more comfortable at the new place of life. Making all necessary introductions of people important in your life as early after arrival as possible will be a big plus - but make sure you give her a few days to get on schedule after jet lag and get comfortable enough for such activities. It is also a good idea to explain what is typical in your circle of family and friends - some people have a family dinner every evening to share the events of the day, others meet only at Christmas time, some people's friends can play a more important role in their life than family, etc. The first thing you might want to do is give your lady a quick tour of the house, places visited most often (i.e. favorite store, restaurant, etc), or the nearest city/activity center (especially if you live outside of town). This will give her an idea of where everything is located and make her feel more comfortable with the surroundings. A tour of the house might seem like a trivial thing, but it is extremely important in making your sweetheart really feel like it is her home - sometimes, not knowing where trash bags or laundry soap are located can be frustrating, especially since most women are eager to take on responsibilities of caring for the home and creating a cozy place for the two of you. Language adjustment might also be of consideration. Being immersed in a foreign language environment might be intimidating and unnerving for your lady, and it is up to you to make sure she doesn't feel completely lost. I have personally known many women who moved abroad with hardly a few words in their vocabulary, but within a few months they were able to communicate with the people in the new surroundings. It is not a phenomenon; being in a foreign language environment shifts the mind into overdrive and practically forces a person to learn the language faster - your lady will most likely not be able to rely on translators, things will be easy to explain or show, and she will simply have no other choice! Television, music and support from other native speakers can be additional resources to help your lady adapt and learn the language faster. If your Russian bride has any trouble with the language, you might consider having her take special courses. For example, most English-speaking countries will not only offer English as a Foreign Language classes, but will also arrange various cross-cultural activities - both of these can help build confidence and gain necessary knowledge and practice of a new tongue. They will also help her start making friends and acquaintances, who are in the same situation as she is. Of course, even with a perfect 10 in English (or other language), there might be cases of misunderstanding, and getting up to speed with the native speakers will take time. This adaptation period (with or without language knowledge) will require from you patience and understanding. The most important thing is not to show the frustration you might feel from not being able to have proper communication. It is a good idea to learn a few words in your sweetheart's native tongue - it will make her feel more comfortable about being in the learning stages, and she won't be the only one making mistakes. Once your lady is comfortable with the new home and environment, you might want to consider having a discussion with her regarding her activities and interests (if you haven't done so prior to her coming). If you both want her to stay at home, a great idea might be for her to get involved in community or charity work, or if you are both willing for her to work, she might look for a simple part time job before moving on to something more serious. The main advantage of this approach lies in finding you lady an activity to occupy her time, as well as providing great language practice, getting comfortable in the new surroundings without you by her side 24/7, building new contacts, and simply not having time to feel homesick. Missing her home might also be something for you to consider and prepare for in advance. I would suggest that you give your lady the options of keeping in touch with her family right after her arrival - this will put her at ease, and help her battle homesickness better. It is a good idea to explain upfront, which communication means you would prefer for her to use (i.e. email is ok anytime, but phone calls are expensive, so they can be done a couple of times a month, etc). When preparing for your sweetheart to arrive, you might want to buy her a small present - something that will be uniquely hers (a t-shirt, a basket with a toothbrush and some other bathroom trinkets, her own slippers, etc), and make her feel like she already has presence in your house. Every person's cultural adjustment needs are different, but being observant and understanding will help both of you make this transition smooth to build a happy future together.
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Oksana Boichenko OksanaLove, Inc. www.oksanalove.com The matchmaker with 12 years of experience in the online dating business. You can find your second half – just visit our dating site and meet your Russian bride among the thousands of beautiful Russian women.
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